Beach Balls, Death and Coping Skills Are All Part Of Small Business Success
Tuesday, March 31st, 2009Friday morning at 1:30 March 27 the phone rang. As most of us know when you receive a phone call at that hour it is almost never good. On the other end a female voice said very tenderly, “I am sorry to tell you Mr. Scott that your mother passed away at 1:15 this morning.
Immediately I was caught up in and sucked into a vortex of emotion. Where things had been moving along well in my business and life they now began to swirl. I am a small businessman, like many of you reading this post. Owning your own business presents many challenges. One of the biggest ones is how you handle what goes on in your personal life.
Before I had a chance to think my sister was on the phone. We talked briefly. I told her I had to go because I had to call the funeral home.
I reached the funeral home and got things underway. Friday was a day of many calls. I was in charge of my mother’s affairs. She had not been well the past few years. Yet, her death came suddenly and unexpectedly.
Emotionally, I have been riding a roller coaster. Most of the time I have either been flat or down. Today has been better. I have received many great e-mail tributes that recognize her and her contributions to others. I have felt more up. Early tomorrow morning I will fly from Texas to Philadelphia and spend the next four days closing the book on the life of my wonderful mother.
She taught me many things that have helped me in small business. One of the things she would always talk about when I was growing up was coping skills. She felt it was important to be as good as possible at handling adversity. How well you coped with adversity would determine how quickly you could get back on track. As we all know, in growing your small business, as in life, there can be a great deal of adversity that can knock you off course.
Right now I am off course. Don’t ask me about my marketing business plan or my performance strategy for success. At the moment, I could care less. Yet, because I have coping skills, learned from my mother, I do have a personal marketing business plan and a personal performance strategy for success.
My marketing business plan is to take care of me. I must let all this wash over me. One of the things she taught me is to not ignore your feelings. If you don’t deal with them and acknowledge them now they will show up later and can cause greater harm. A stifled emotion is like a beach ball that you try to hold under water. It takes a lot of energy. And, eventually the beach ball springs to the top with great force. When our emotions do that it can be destructive.
My marketing business plan is to take care of me. And, my performance strategy for success is to take care of myself by not plowing into more work. In the long run I will accomplish less if I dive into work. I will accomplish less because of all that energy I will be using to stifle the beach ball, my feelings, and keep them underwater will actually cause me to accomplish less and be less ready for opportunity at work.
If you are facing challenges with small business growth or in running your business take a look at the beach balls you may be trying to keep under water. I promise you they are holding you back because they drain you of energy and focus.
Develop a healthy coping strategy by facing them and doing something about them. You won’t believe how free you will feel and how much energy you will create. Since my mother is no longer with us you can’t ask her. But, if she were here that is what she would tell you.
Develop your coping skills. Get rid of your beach balls. Eliminate or minimize your tolerations. When you do you will more quickly get back on the road to business success.